So Emotional

“I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.”– Edward Everett Hale

Emotional intelligence—sometimes referred to as emotional quotient or EQ—is the ability to recognize and manage both your own and other’s emotions. Two researchers, Peter Salavoy and John Mayer, developed the concept in the 1990s, and used it to define and improve communication within marriages.

Over time, it’s become clear how emotional intelligence is critical to maintaining relationships in their various iterations, including those we foster in the business world. The concept is of such interest to employers that it’s being researched extensively to gain a better understanding of its impact on leadership and success. (Data shows EQ is the number one predictor of performance. You can see my Forbes article on that topic here.)

Emotional intelligence is more important than ever right now, because it feels a little bit like we’re living in a world under siege. It’s not just about the threat (and reality) of this specific virus. We’re all operating under new pressures. Millions of people have had to change how they function at work and are trying to juggle personal and professional obligations in a world that’s no longer compartmentalized. Millions more have lost their jobs or businesses entirely because of forced closures. How will they pay their bills?

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Flight of Time

“You know what’s weird? Day by day, nothing seems to change, but pretty soon…everything’s different.” ― Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

Years ago, when my children were small, I remember thinking that people with grown children, or even those with teens, had forgotten how challenging it was to deal with babies and toddlers. How hard it was to adjust your life and activities so completely around the needs of another person, and how you spent all your time worrying about their eating and sleeping routines or lack thereof.

This week, as I sat in the salon marinating in high-octane hair color (now necessary to cover my grey) I listened to two women discuss these very issues… and realized that I am now that person, the one who no longer appreciates the stresses of young motherhood.

But there was a second part to that realization, because my younger self was mistaken- older parents haven’t forgotten those challenges, it’s just that parenting teens and young adults makes us nostalgic for the simplicity of those early childhood issues.

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